Over the last few weeks, I’ve been writing about how during the Holiday season we are bombarded with a million things to do, (See here & here) and it’s a bit obvious I’m not up for it. Truth is, I’m a firm believer in saving our energy for things and moments that are truly worth it. Of course, we are human and it’s natural that we want our loved ones to feel… loved and appreciated but, what about us? You can argue with me that life is about sacrifices and that maybe once a year it’s ok to put others first but then I’ll argue with you… do you really put others first just during the Holidays??? Probably not.
This year I didn’t make any of the typical resolutions because after one month they get thrown out the window; instead, I made a promise to myself: “Do life your way.” Easier said than done but 2017 has really been a year in which I had to double think before saying yes, before going to the party I didn’t really feel like going to, before driving 45 min to Miami just to go to a cool bar. These everyday decisions that seem very silly, have had a very important impact on my 2017. It hasn’t been perfect and there has been multiple times in which I’ve had to ask myself: Why? Why did I agree to this? Why did I come here? The answer is always to make someone else happy.
Now, don’t think I’m the Grinch and a horrible person. I LOVE my friends and my family and would do anything for them and really understand the concept of sacrifices for the greater good but sometimes we have to cut back. We have to think if our actions are benefiting us or just others and an even tougher (and MOST important) question to ask is: Would they do the same for you?
So, with the Holidays happening RIGHT now, I thought it would be important to share this and to urge you to think about yourself. I don’t want you to forget about others but I really don’t want you to forget about YOU; simply because it’s so easy to do. Gifts are the physical form of appreciation, of love. So, why not gift ourselves? Some people might see it as selfish, I see it as powerful.
Receiving gifts makes you happy because you feel loved, rewarded, and you feel like someone knows you well enough to gift you something you’ll actually use but the interesting thing is that, you are defining your happiness based on someone else’s ability to gift you something. What if that person had a really terrible year and has no budget? What if they forgot? What if they decided to just give you a gift card? You’d be disappointed and sad. That’s why gifting yourself is SUCH a great idea and practice. Here are the 3 reasons why you should gift yourself:
- It’s rewarding:Think about all the hard work you have put into your year. We spend most of our time working, going to sleep, waking up and doing it all over again. Give yourself a treat. It doesn’t have to be a physical product; it could be a treat, it could be a day at the spa, it could be a facial. Whatever makes you happy and proud of the year that’s about to end.
- Practice self-love: Gifting yourself is loving yourself. You deserve your gift, you deserve your love. We must love ourselves, be in love with ourselves before we can take care of others.
- Be your happiness:Don’t let your happiness be determined by someone else. Let gifts be an extra to your life, release your expectations and you’ll find happiness within you.
I practiced self gifting this year, allowing myself to release all sort of outside expectations. I got what I wanted and needed. Here are a few pictures 🙂
What do you think? Are you practicing self-gifting this year?
Let me know below! xo Belen