Last week I got a phone call from one of my best friends because she was feeling overwhelmed and needed someone to talk with for some guidance. She’s at a point in her life in which the decisions she makes, will have a huge impact on her future. Here’s a little background on her story: She recently graduated from her second degree, is living in a foreign country, doesn’t speak the language although the majority there speak English, she’s working a job she wants to quit and is looking for that job that she’ll enjoy and pay enough for her to live. Shouldn’t be that complicated; right?
Well, the issue is that not only finding a good job is complicated but, when you are not in a good place with yourself, it’s even harder. Let me explain:
Have you ever wondered why sometimes it’s SO difficult to do the things you know are good for you? Like, I know waking up early, working out and eating healthy is not only good for my health but it makes me feel good (which is super important!) but, there are days in which, despite of me knowing the benefits of the things that make me feel good, I choose not to do them. The alarm goes off a million times, I wake up late so there’s no workout and because I didn’t work out I don’t care about what I eat. This cycle can go on and on if I don’t consciously stop it. Why? Why do we do this to ourselves?
Because we are not in a good place with ourselves or also known, as not being in alignment. We are seeking acceptance or appraisal from the outside world rather than concentrating on the things that spark something in us. We are not working towards unblocking the barriers in our lives; we are simply living to put out the fires and survive. When you are out of alignment, you seek acceptance and appraisal from others so you put yourself last. When you put yourself last, overwhelm kicks in. When overwhelm kicks in, people tend to give up. You don’t want to give up; do you?
So, I suggest you create a list. I LOVE lists because they make you think and help in creating strategies in your life.
- Create a list of ALL the things you need to do
- Categorize the list based on: Personal, Professional, Social
- Identify and circle the things that don’t let you think. (When I do this exercise, most of the time, the things that don’t let me think are: paying bills, grocery shopping, cleaning my room and things like this…)
- Do the things that don’t let you think first and then move on to the next.
Normally the things that block you (don’t let you think) are thing you don’t want or don’t like doing BUT you’ll see how once you get them off the list, the rest will flow organically. You’ll have enough space in your life to think creatively and be inspired for the things YOU DO WANT TO DO.
I’m one of those people that cannot think when I owe someone something, or when something was due (like bills) and I didn’t complete it so I know, those are my blocks. A block to me is when I ran out of deodorant and the store is closing in 30 minutes. I NEED to get that deodorant or nothing that I try to accomplish will work. You have to learn what the blocks in your life are so that you can work everyday to unblock them and let your day to day flow without overwhelm. Does this make sense?
We ALL have blocks. Doesn’t matter who you are of where you come from. Blocks/barriers are good to have; These are the challenges that make us grow and help us become the person we dream of being but when you don’t recognize the blocks as positive challenges, you fall out of alignment. You start seeing these blocks as cement walls you cannot break through and get stuck in your day to day just making it through… Going to that job you hate, getting home and binge watching TV instead of working on your projects or applying for that job you dream of. If you catch yourself doing this multiple times a week or making excuses for yourself, go back to that list and start over.
Let me know if you have any questions about how to do this list. I promise it will help you get rid of the overwhelming feeling that you don’t know what to do first. Feel free to email me directly at firstname.lastname@example.org 🙂