We often hear, “lead by example”, “don’t demand; ask”, “Don’t act like a commander, act like a leader”. Well, maybe at some point you have wondered “How can I be a leader???” Sometimes it seems impossible when you are so passionate about what you are doing, that when someone else doesn’t share the same passion and commitment, it’s frustrating.
You will find yourself surrounded by “average” people in your life and there’s nothing wrong with wanting to be average; after all, greatness and wisdom comes with a set of worries all the time. But, keep in mind that if you surround yourself with “average” people, chances are you won’t learn too many things. You’ve heard of that saying that you should always work with people smarter than you? I strongly believe in that. Being the boss, doesn’t mean you know more or that you are better than someone else… it simply means you know how to handle and lead a team. So, how do we handle people? How do we lead a team?
I’m reading the book “How to Win Friends & Influence People” by Dale Carnegie and I have 3 small steps for you in your journey to become a great leader!
- Don’t criticize, condemn or complain.
- Be careful when you give feedback. If you yell, or speak in a condescending manner, you risk your employees to resent you. Make sure to always give positive feedback as well and if you have to give negative feedback, always present a solution for the mistake.
- Give honest and sincere appreciation.
- Don’t praise people, give them honest appreciation. People, humans have an urge for being loved and this is valid for the office as well. In our interpersonal relations we should never forget that all our associates are human beings and hunger for appreciation, It is the legal tender that all souls enjoy.
- Arouse in the other person an eager want.
- Tell people what they want to hear, what they need, what they will achieve. Put yourself in your team’s shoes, in your employee’s shoes and ask yourself… “Why would they want to help me reach x?” – This is a good method to inspire motivation. Humans are selfish, they will do things for their benefit… don’t forget that.
Keep in mind these 3 steps and you’ll see a difference at work. Try it also at home, it works for any kind of human relation.
I leave you with this… “Every man I meet is my superior in some way. In that, I learn of him.” – Emerson